Having an eating disorder may be an isolating experience rife with shame, secrecy, and fear of judgment. But including family and loved ones in a treatment plan can help someone with an eating disorder better see that they are loved, that they are not suffering alone, and that others are invested in their recovery.
In fact, certain types of therapy intentionally include multiple family members to give the group as a whole a chance to improve communication, create a healthier home environment, and heal together.
Benefits of Involving Family in Eating Disorder Recovery
When someone struggles with an eating disorder, family dynamics may play a role in issues like trust and communication, which can make a big difference in recovery.
Involving family members in the treatment process acknowledges that the recovering individual exists within the family unit, where they should feel safe to express themselves, and establishes the family as a valuable resource for the person in recovery.1
In fact, the benefits of eating disorder family support are not exclusive to the person in recovery. This approach can help address the family unit as a whole, help improve trust and communication across the board, and provide comfort for loved ones who may otherwise be feeling distressed, concerned, or helpless.
When recovering from an eating disorder, having a strong support network is essential.6 This group of individuals can provide hope and encouragement throughout the often difficult and lengthy recovery process. When involved in the treatment process, family members can become some of the most powerful members of someone’s support network.
Armed with the right kind of knowledge and skills, family members can step in if they see signs of relapse or have a good idea of how to react if their loved one reaches out to them for help. On the other hand, the person struggling with the eating disorder may be more likely to turn to a family member in time of need instead of resorting to unhealthy coping mechanisms.2
Family therapy can also help foster an authentic connection between family members and facilitate trust and better communication. Feelings of shame, resentment, or fear—which plague many eating disorder family dynamics—can also be directly addressed with professional help and guidance on how to best navigate these issues.
Better educating the entire family on what eating disorders are like and how they impact people can be beneficial for everyone involved. For parents, siblings, and other loved ones, it can help them more fully grasp what the person with the eating disorder is going through, hopefully increasing empathy and reducing feelings of guilt or blame.
When a child or adolescent struggles with an eating disorder, parental support can be especially beneficial.7 When parents learn more about what their child is going through and how to take care of them at home, it can make this type of support more helpful and robust and help parents and families create environments at home that are more conducive to supporting treatment and recovery.4
Some types of therapy even focus on educating and empowering parents to take a larger role in their child’s recovery, specifically by helping them make decisions about their child’s eating habits until the point where the child can be trusted to start eating on their own.3
Recovery from an eating disorder is undoubtedly a team effort. Once someone has completed their treatment program, they may return to their family, whether that means living under the same roof or living separately but maintaining contact or regular interactions.
Family and loved ones’ involvement during eating disorder treatment can help rectify patterns of behavior and interaction that were not beneficial or effective in the past. This is done while helping build new growth opportunities in relationships and through forming new or different bonds that promote healing, intimacy, and care.
Family dynamics can be greatly improved by involving family members in therapy.
Eating Disorder Family Support In Treatment
Certain types of therapy are designed around the idea of involving family members in treatment. The most common form of family-based therapy for eating disorders is sometimes called the Maudsley method, named after the hospital in England where it was first practiced.4
This type of family-based therapy (FBT) works around five major tenets, including:5
- The therapist will not focus on the cause of the disorder.
- The therapist is viewed as an expert consultant on eating disorders; parents are viewed as experts on their child.
- Parents are empowered to help their child go through recovery.
- The eating disorder is viewed as a separate entity from the child.
- The focus of therapy is on the “here and now” or how to best address the issues currently in play.
These tenets are put in place to help bypass conversations about blame or other unhelpful emotional detours and focus therapy specifically on treating the issue at hand: Helping someone recover from their eating disorder.5
The educational components of this type of FBT are also meant to empower families to make safe and helpful choices and changes at home for their child.
Effectiveness of Family Support in Therapy
Family therapy can be a helpful path to recovery for people of all ages struggling with all types of eating disorders, but the method when it comes to adolescents with anorexia, family support has been found to be especially helpful.
In fact, the Maudsley method is generally considered the first choice for adolescents with anorexia nervosa (AN) who are well enough to undergo outpatient treatment.3 This is especially important, as AN is particularly difficult to treat with other types of therapy, making anorexia family support one of the best treatment options for many struggling with this condition.3,4
Versions of the Maudsley method and other types of FBT have also been adapted to help patients struggling with bulimia nervosa (BN), avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID), and other types of disordered eating. While more research is needed, these methods are generally thought to have promise in treating these conditions, as well as some common co-occurring mental health concerns.3
Support Groups for Eating Disorder Families
Just as the support of therapy can help all members of a family going through eating disorder recovery, the process itself can be equally draining on the whole family.
Parents and other family members can make a big difference in helping a loved one, but it’s just as important for these family members to care for their own mental health during this difficult time. Taking some time for self-care can be helpful. Going for a walk, journaling, taking a bath, or doing something nice for yourself can help alleviate the stress often associated with supporting someone’s recovery.
Support groups can also help. Anorexia support for families, particularly anorexia parent support, can be found in anorexia family support groups. Other eating disorders may have specific support groups, or there may be more general support groups for friends or family of those with eating disorders.
Just as these groups can help someone going through recovery, they can help those on the outside by providing a sense of community and a forum to offer advice or air shared successes or concerns.
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Resources
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- The Importance of Family Support While Working Toward Eating Disorder Recovery. (n.d.). Oliver-Pyatt Centers. Accessed August 2023.
- Rienecke RD. (2017). Family-based treatment of eating disorders in adolescents: current insights. Adolescent Health, Medicine and Therapeutics; 8:69–79.
- LE Grange D. (2005). The Maudsley family-based treatment for adolescent anorexia nervosa. World Psychiatry; 4(3):142–146.
- Rienecke RD, & Le Grange D. (2022). The five tenets of family-based treatment for adolescent eating disorders. Journal of Eating Disorders; 10(1):60.
- Leonidas C, & Dos Santos MA. (2014). Social support networks and eating disorders: an integrative review of the literature. Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment; 10:915–927.
- Erriu M, Cimino S, & Cerniglia L. (2020). The Role of Family Relationships in Eating Disorders in Adolescents: A Narrative Review. Behavioral Sciences; 10(4):71.